Civic Leadership Forum: 爸爸妈妈们,如何说话,青少年才会听
这是一群在美国出生的华裔孩子们,都来自湾区,分别毕业于哈佛,斯坦福,伯克利大学。他们曾是叛逆少年,也经历过无法和父母沟通发生冲突的时候。曾经的困惑和迷茫,在他们名校毕业走上工作岗位以后,他们有了更深的感悟和理解,也寻找到了和父母沟通的解决办法。
现在的他们,在业余时间自发组成RICE Team(Real Intergenerational Communication Enthusiasts),旨在用自己的经验和体会去帮助更多家庭建立家长和孩子间的良好沟通。
让人感动的是:英文是这群孩子们的第一语言。但他们为了方便更多华人家长而努力练习中文,本次演讲他们将用他们最大的努力用中文去和大家沟通。
——本次分享的青年导师们——
卡尔·单
(Carl Shan)5岁那年随父母由北京来到湾区, 他在两种不同的文化中长大,青少年期间与父母有很多冲突,有很多困惑。 如今,28岁的卡尔成熟了,也积累了很多智慧。他自愿担任亲子关系工作坊负责人,以帮助父母了解他们的青少年,并建立更牢固,健康的关系。 他曾担任3年的高中老师,积累了很多支持青少年又让他们承担责任的心得。 他的工作坊已吸引1,500多位家长参加。
他拥有加州大学伯克利分校的统计学士学位,并在LinkedIn担任高级数据科学家。2021年秋季将就攻读斯坦福计算机硕士学位。
Carl Shan is the son of immigrants from mainland China. His family moved to the Bay Area when he was 5 years old. He grew up navigating the two different cultures, and often fought with his parents. Now that Carl is an older (and slightly wiser) 28 years-old, he volunteers as a workshop leader to help parents understand their teens and build stronger, healthier relationships. He spent 3 years working as a high school teacher, where he developed many techniques for supporting teens while holding them accountable. He holds a BA in Statistics from UC Berkeley and works as a Senior Data Scientist at LinkedIn. His workshops have reached over 1,500 parents.
(Christie Lin)在湾区和台北长大,毕业于哈佛大学。 在大学期间,她遇到了一些亚裔同学,尽管他们看起来都很”成功”,但在精神健康方面仍然很挣扎。 他们的许多挑战都来自于与和父母的关系,她开始意识到年轻人的心理健康的重要性。
毕业后,克里斯蒂(Christie)回到了湾区,工作之余参与RICE,与父母分享了第二代的经历。 她现在在BetterUp工作,该公司是一家通过教练帮助个人建立自我意识和沟通技巧的创业公司。
Christie Lin grew up in the Bay Area and Taipei before moving to the East Coast to attend Harvard. While in college, she encountered many Asian American peers who struggled with mental health despite their outward “success.” Many of their challenges were tied to their relationships with their parents, and she began to see intergenerational communication as critical to the mental wellbeing of many young adults. After graduating, Christie moved back to the Bay Area, where she ran panels and other initiatives to share the 2nd generation experience with parents. She now works at BetterUp, a startup that helps individuals build self-awareness and communication skills through coaching.
Cat Xu的大部分时间都在湾区度过–她在Cupertino长大,毕业于在斯坦福大学human-computer interaction专业,现在居住在旧金山在LinkedIn担任产品经理(远程)。 她热衷于弥合两代之间的鸿沟,并致力于在亚裔美国人家庭中建立健康而充实的关系。 她认为,良好的沟通是建立良好关系的关键,她曾在中国和旧金山举办过沟通研讨会。
Cat Xu has spent most of her time in the Bay Area – she grew up in Cupertino, studied human-computer interaction at Stanford, and now lives in San Francisco where she works (remotely) as a product manager at LinkedIn. She’s passionate about bridging intergenerational gaps, and building healthy and fulfilling relationships within Asian-American families. She believes good communication is the key to a good relationship, and has taught communication workshops in China and San Francisco.
Chloe在东湾长大,毕业于加州大学伯克利分校,学习统计和计算机科学,现在在一家非营利性科技公司担任高级软件工程师。 十几岁的时候,Chloe与母亲在小事上经常反复吵架,关系很不好。 现在,她在花了很多年改善与父母之间的关系并治愈了她青少年时期的伤口之后,她热衷于帮助其他家庭重建他们的家庭关系。 她之前曾在湾区与父母一起举办过研讨会,探讨如何跨越代际和文化鸿沟与青少年建立联系。
Chloe grew up in the East Bay, studied Statistics and Computer Science at UC Berkeley, and now works as a Senior Software Engineer at a nonprofit tech company. As a teen, Chloe had repeated awful fights with her mother over small things and felt a deep loss of connection. Now, after having spent many years improving communication with her parents and healing wounds from her teenage years, she is passionate about helping other families similarly rebuild their relationships. She has previously conducted workshops with parents in the Bay Area on how to connect with their teenage children across generational and cultural gaps.
我是Carlos!我在北加州长大,上了个竞争比较厉害的高中.我上学期间经常打游戏,熬夜.哈佛大学毕业后我在Facebook工作了四年,然后最近跳到Google了.我在做软件工程.
我爱好是篮球,弹钢琴,和唱karaoke.
本次活动由来
2020年年底,在CLUSA的executive director Anthony Ng的提醒下,丁丁电视决定办两代人的沟通的主题的公民领袖论坛主题,并在Liyan Zhao老师的推荐和帮助下,和RICE一起举办了本次活动。活动还有Diana Ding女士特别邀请加拿大著名心理学专家罗斌老师。